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I consider my children after having Joanne as a gift from Jesus, my 2nd child was also a girl, Kimberley Jayne she was born 10months after Joanne although she wasn’t planned, she was also wanted I was to be a one parent as me and my boyfriend had ended our relationship after Joanne was born.
I went through the pregnancy alone it was a difficult pregnancy, at three months I had a threatened miscarriage bleeding quite badly. I did go to the hospital but was sent home to rest. Everything calmed down and my pregnancy went nearly to full term,
Although I did swell with water I went from 8stone to nearly 15stone,I think this could be down to having babies so close together, also my kidney not workin
properly unknown to me. My pregnancy was well monitored after 16weeks for any signs of kidney problems with my baby. But at 38 weeks I was admitted to hospital due to pre-eclampsia and was put on bed rest but it soon become apparent this wasn’t working so I was told I would be induced, After 36 hours labour and the babies heart beat being closely monitored as her heart beat wasn’t to strong she was born weighing 6llb 15oz and 48cm long on the 23-1-86, I was taken to theatre as the placenta had to
be removed manually, I was given a blood transfusion after I came out of theatre also catheter inserted as I couldn’t pass water. My daughter was very well she had lovely blonde curl at the front of her head. She has always known she had an older sister in heaven. As she was growing up she was a very sentimental girl always asking questions and needing answers to why she couldn’t see her sister, from the age of about five she understood her sister was an angel. She has done well all the way through school and as took accountancy as her career and at the age of 20 years now I am so proud of her.
I do wonder what Joanne would have been doing, but my children enjoy life and also know whatever they do Joanne is with them.
The third child I had was a son, he also wasn’t planned I had him 20months after my second daughter. I had such a wonderful pregnancy I didn’t put much weight on he was very active, but in breech position later on in pregnancy and doctors thought it was going to be a problem, They thought it was going to be a big baby. They monitored me very closely for kidney problems in the baby everything was proven to be fine. He was due on the 20th august 1987. That day came and went no signs of
labour starting I had two more appointments before the doctors decided to induce me.
I was taken into hospital on the 1st September although I had small pains in the evening while in hospital nothing happened, so the following morning on the 2nd September I was given a peccary and induced. This baby being really stubborn didn’t want to arrive he waited until 1.30pm before showing signs, but only slight.
Until 2.45pm the pains were of wanting to push nurses panicking as the last time they checked I wasn’t advanced, all of a sudden he wanted to come he arrived at 3.15pm. He was a little blue with breathing problems very slight nothing to worry about, weighing 6llb 2oz with jet-black hair and lots of it. He did his best through school but never took to it, He is a very different child to my 2nd daughter as much as he works he saves but my daughter works hard and likes to spend. He is at collage learning computers and also works part time at a restaurant as a kitchen porter I am so very proud of him also due to his determination after struggling at school .He as managed to save and buy is own transport.
My fourth child also not planned was girl, Born 4 year’s 11months after my third, This pregnancy was like Joanne’s and Kimberley’s together, As like Joanne’s I was very sick but this time all the way through. And like Kimberley’s I also bleed at three months. I didn’t put much weight on probably as I was only 30 weeks gestation when she decided to come. Not really knowing I was in labour due to always being induced
I slept all night thinking backache, the following morning the pain still the same so I sorted my children out got them dressed, and tided the house. I thought I better just have the doctor check me out so rang the surgery for him to call, he arrived a few hours later took a look and then listened to the baby’s heart beat. He announced I was having contractions every 5-10 minutes but also every contraction I had the baby’s heart beat was dropping lower. So now a medical emergency the ambulance was called, I had to go alone as my mum was coming to take care of the children. Some how my husband managed to get to the hospital about five minutes after me. I was put in a side room and waited for doctors they weren’t that long before coming to see me
I was already machined from nurses listening and tracing babies heart beat, the doctors confirmed the baby was distressed and needed to be born. All so quickly the nurses were preparing me for theatre to have c-section oxygen mask on as I was getting pushed to theatre my husband worried and me in shock. My husband had to wait outside as I was put to sleep, as there was no time for epidural to be arranged.
The next thing I can remember was waking and David my husband saying it’s a girl,
She was in SCBU as her lungs were not working properly and she was fighting for life, on a ventilator, I wanted so much to go and see her that I jumped out of bed willing to walk even though I had a catheter inserted as I couldn’t pass water, the nurses insisted I get in a wheel chair as it was only an hour since surgery.
They pushed me down to special care baby unit to see her; all I did see was machines and a doctor trying everything to keep her alive. I couldn’t bring myself to talk to her, as I was so scared I was losing her, the nurses said it’s understandable after such a big shock. I was pushed back to my bed while I let the doctors do all they could, as my husband went from one end of the hospital to the other, between me and our daughter it must have been so hard for him. It was about 9pm when it was announced they had to take her to another hospital some 80miles away, she needed 24hour care of which our local doctor couldn’t give, as her sats kept dropping. The crash team brought her
incubator into my room so I could see her before she left. That is when her dad broke down he had been so strong all day for me. He couldn’t go with her as we had two other children at home, and my mum couldn’t stay as my dad had just had a stroke.
I was also unable to go due to me just having surgery, the hospital was very good both at my local and the Manchester hope hospital as they rang me every day and I could ring at anytime to ask about her. She was gone two week as she did so well then brought back to my local hospital so I could stay in the mother’s room. I never left her side while she was in, she was still ill and needed the incubator and heat lamp due to jaundice She had lost some weight she was 4llb 2oz at birth but come back just over 3llbs her length was never measured. We did find out why she was so premature it was because I had a water infection and although I was on antibiotics all the way through my pregnancy hoping for this not to happen it didn’t stop it. The water infection was due to me only having 1 kidney as the other was removed in 1990.
She was discharged in the middle of September and was very well but still small.
As a small child she was prone to illness, and would swell when her injections for whooping cough etc was given, she was seen at a hospital in Newcastle for her immune system which showed something on her white blood cells. Before two she had every virus going. (German measles, shingles, whooping cough, pneumonia,) I think it was down to her being prem. She also has eyesight problems due to being premature, Also at three she started with epileptic seizures which her first was life threatening. She was fitting for ¾ hour and the ambulance crew had to resuscitate her and at the hospital the crash team had to give her diazepam to stop her fitting. She was
well for another year exactly before having another gran-mal seizure, which this time she was given diazepam to stop it as soon as she was thought at risk of brain damage.
I also think her seizure is down to her being premature as up until she was 1 year old she was monitored for brain damage due to her being ventilated. She was put on medication for epilepsy and only a couple happened after that but not as bad. She was able to attend school as normal and done quite well, She is a fantastic swimmer getting her gold award; she is a fantastic dancer, and also plays the keyboard very well self taught and now teaching herself the electric guitar. She was born on the 14th august and is now 13year old. She wants to do beauty therapy massage when leaving her senior school in the next two years. We call her our little fighter as she as been through so much and is still here. I’m so proud of all my children and we all know Joanne is their guiding the way. She is our guardian angel and we all love her.
